5 Psychology-Backed Secrets to Become Irresistibly Attractive

when it comes to being irresistibly attractive there are a few things you can do foolproof and psychology backed

secrets to have anyone thinking damn this one's different it's not about looks and it's not just about surface

level charm it's about understanding the subtle behaviors and mindset shifts that trigger a deeper almost magnetic and

instant attraction in others if you're trying to stand out in a crowded room create an unforgettable first impression

or simply just want everyone to gravitate towards you then these secrets are for you and they will unlock an

entirely different level of aert in this video we are diving deep into the psychology of what makes you not just

attractive but irresistible to everyone you meet by the way new location I'm in Africa right now I document the entire

Journey over on my Instagram so follow me over there disclaimer if you are one of those people that say I hate games

this video is not going to be for you just walk away right now just click off right now cuz this video is just not

going to land this is not about games it's not about manipulation it's just about understanding human interaction

and just what works secret number one care less get more energy so we all know confidence is attractive and there is so

much power in confidence but there's a huge difference between fake and forc confidence and genuine real confidence

people can feel when you are presenting the real deal and when you're just a phony when you truly believe in yourself

when you truly have self-worth and self-esteem and you feel so good in your internal world people will feel that it

radiates off of you it shows in your body language your authenticity and the way you speak this kind of confidence is

irresistible because it's authentic the key here is to stop seeking external validation the less you care about

external approval the more people will actually give it to you and the more people will be drawn to you this is

truly the ultimate soft girl mindset care less get more the biggest Pro tip here is to focus on your strengths but

also your weaknesses the more you just lean into what you know you're not that good at and that you find a weakness and

instead of trying to cover it up actually own it and present it to the world and say yeah this is who I am

these are my strengths these are my weaknesses you will feel so much more confident but that confidence will also

bring so many more people to you people are drawn to authenticity not the type of egoic confidence where you're just

highlighting your strengths and people aren't seeing any of your weaknesses because a huge part of human interaction

which we're going to get into in another secret is vulnerability showing that hey I'm not perfect and I do have flaws

someone that is overly confident is trying to compensate for things that they actually lack when they come into

their bedroom and they're all by themselves at night they are the ones that are the most insecure so they're

doing the most to convince you that they're perfect but people are smart people can read right through that and

don't be one of those people because you would just be repellent secret number two is mirroring mirroring is so

underrated and these are all things that you have to consciously start practicing in conversations and then they'll start

flowing and then they'll be more natural cuz right now you're probably thinking oh my my God how am I going to remember

all of this practice one at a time in different interactions and you'll see the difference in how people interact

with you and the lasting impression that you're giving off mirroring is when you subtly keyword subtly mirror somebody's

body language their tone of voice and their expressions when you're speaking to them in a conversation the reason why

mirroring works is because in any given interaction with anyone we will feel most connected to those who we feel

similar to who we feel like are just like us because at the end of the day we're all selfish and we're all trying

to find pieces of ourselves and each other so when you give the person you're talking to subtle indications that you

are similar to them by speaking the way they speak and using their tone of voice and their hand gestures you will trigger

some deep psychological subconscious thing in them to be like oh I like this person we're kind of similar she's just

like me and remember this is not a game like you're not trying to convince people to like you this is just sort of

turning on that charm and noticing in conversations when you can sort of or somebody you're not going to copy them

and become a stalker and become creepy you are going to just look at what they're doing if like I said they're

putting their hand like this maybe in like 5 Seconds you do the same thing and that will still do the job of triggering

that deep subconscious feeling of oh I like this person because we're similar even though that's the smallest thing

and everyone does this but doing it in that conversation will help someone feel like you know them and they know you now

this is an advanced psychological secret so please don't go out out there very beginner level and try this because you

are going to come off creepy it has to be done right and it has to be properly timed and all the right things another

little disclaimer I want to put for this one is you are not changing who you are to be perceived better or you're not

changing who you are to be liked more by somebody you are simply just in a conversation helping them feel more

comfortable and increasing the likelihood of them thinking this was a very pleasant interaction you are not

changing the core of who you are to be approved by that person and to make them like you you're sort of creating this

rhythm in the conversation when you're mirroring them to make them feel like you're in sync with them when you create

this in sync feeling with them by mirroring their body language their tone their gestures you can make them feel

like they have known you forever even though you just met so the entire goal with mirroring is to like I said get in

sync with the person and make them feel like this is a familiar interaction but more than that it's to Foster this sense

of your understanding and empathy in the interaction have you ever had a conversation with someone where maybe

you are feeling really down and sad and you're just trying to talk it out and that person isn't focused on you they're

thinking something else they're really excited about something and they want to jump into the conversation and share

good news and you're just kind of like fed up with it you're thinking okay well this isn't really the space that is

going to help me in this moment you feel frustrated and you leave the conversation feeling like I don't know

if I would go back to this person for some some advice or share things with them you want to match the energy of the

conversation you do this by matching the tone of voice the pace of the conversation the mood of the

conversation and this is what Fosters that feeling of genuine connection where you are truly listening to the person

you are matching the tone and the mood of what they're saying if they're really excited you wouldn't want to be just

like oh yeah cool that's fun ah really happy for you but you can tell the energy is not there you would want to

show the same level of enthusiasm as they are showing with you so it's really just matching the energy of this person

and what they're bringing to you and in this conversation this builds trust it builds likeability and it makes that

person feel like you guys are on the same wavelength now let me just say make sure this is not being inauthentic if

you're in a conversation and you're really just not liking this person and you're over it don't be fake just walk

away like don't engage in this conversation I'm saying to do these things when you feel a genuine

connection with someone when you're trying to make a good first impression whether that be at a job interview

whether that be when you're just meeting a new crowd of people mirroring can be used in so many situations but just make

sure you're not using it in a disingenuous interaction if you're with someone that you just don't like just be

like yeah just be pleasant and just walk away keep it moving this secret will 100% make you more attractive without

even saying a word because it's all in the energy and the body language secret number three is eye contact eye contact

is simple yet the most powerful thing you can do to make someone feel attraction towards you instantly without

even them thinking oh my God this person's really attractive you look at them in the eyes boom attraction okay

and also it's a sign of confidence a lot of people that I have conversations with are like this they're looking around

they're trying to rush through the conversation the eyes are moving all around and it makes me feel this is

coming from my perception I feel like they're not confident I feel like they lack self-esteem and they're just trying

to rush through the conversation and it's not a person that I would genuinely gravitate towards or seek out for

another conversation so when you don't look people in the eyes like if I was just like talking like this if I don't

look anybody in the eye it just gives off the sense of like I'm trying to rush and I just don't feel confident in what

I'm saying but when you do the eye contact and there's different variations of eye contact you can do some to seduce

like the triangle method where you do one left eye to the right to the mouth and back to the left chef's kiss but

just general regular eye contact when talking to people is going to make such a difference for you you be like whoo

why was I not doing this before engaging in powerful eye contact will have people thinking you are the best person ever

without you having to say a word because you're looking at them they feel important they feel like their words

matter and that for somebody Game Changer again such a subtle thing that makes people feel emotional closeness to

you and you're a person that they've known and loved forever so let's talk about about the caveat of this because

there's always a caveat with these type of things and secrets you don't want to be staring at someone like this mhm mhm

that's creepy stalker Vibes they're going to run away and they're going to think oh my God this person's obsessed

with me and a lunatic you don't want to do that you want to make your gaze warm soft approachable and inviting you're

just looking at them then you kind of move your gaze away I think I've heard 17 seconds is like the magic number here

don't quote me on that but you can try it out 17 seconds and then you kind of like look away and then you look back at

them and then like I said if you're trying to be a bit seductive you can move your eyes to their lips and you can

do that whole triangle method but again the key is to be warm inviting and not creepy do not be creepy if you are

staring so intensely at somebody that it freaks them out you're doing it wrong again mastering eye contact helps you

build different layers of connection because eye contact builds connection without verbally speaking to that person

right so there's different layers of emotional connection that we can build through eye contact like I said there's

a triangle method that builds more of that intimacy and that seduction level of connection then there's more of that

playfulness light-heartedness connection that you use when you're just kind of looking at them when somebody's opening

up and being vulnerable with you you can hold your gaze a little bit longer there's so many different layers to

build in connection with people like these are such Powerful Secrets that mastering will truly change how you are

perceived as a woman the main key here is to just make sure your eye contact is helping that person feel safe and seen

and heard and like you're deeply understanding them for me personally if I'm talking to someone I do this with my

parents all the time where I'll be saying something and they're not looking at me and then I'll be like are you even

listening to me and they're like yeah just talk and I'm like but I cannot physically have a conversation with you

when you're not looking at me in the eyes because somebody not looking at you when you're speaking passionately about

something when you're speaking about something in general can make you feel like they're not listening to you and it

can cause you to be frustrated and then you also lose your train of thought and the connection between the two people

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this is weaving in all of these different psychological secrets to really create the full package for the

best conversation ever with someone and a lasting impression the first three Secrets we've talked about is building

connection and intimacy through non-verbal cues eye contact mirroring just shifting your energy to cariz equal

exchange of vulnerability asks you to speak but in the most authentic way possible and feel confident in sharing

the parts of you that are maybe not the prettiest parts but you're still sharing them without a fear of judgment you're

openly expressing this is who I am and this is the core of me being vulnerable was such a thing I had to overcome

because we often think about being vulnerable as being just the worst version of ourselves and just sharing

every worst part of who we are and all the grimy stuff but it's really not about that it's about being open and

honest about your dreams your wins your failures your insecurities your fears everything and anything in between like

the bad stuff and the good stuff because a lot of us won't open up about our dreams a lot of us won't share what we

really want to do in life what we're passionate about that's also a form of vulnerability so being able to share

this with other people when they maybe share a dream with you you share a dream back they share a fear with you you

share a fear back be careful not to one up people because you don't want to make that person feel like you're just

one-upping them and being like well I have this fear once they just shared a fear or I have this dream once they just

shared a dream there's a very subtle way of doing it so make sure you don't fall into that trap cuz when I was younger

that used to be me and nobody likes it so with everything there's a balance if you're not sharing enough you can come

off to closed off if you're sharing every single thing without giving that other person a chance to share as well

they're going to be like this person is just having verbal diarrhea have they ever had a conversation with anyone

before because it's clearly not they're telling me everything about their life we don't want that it's not cute it's

not fun it's not calm magic happens here when when there's an equal exchange so if that person shares something you then

share something as well again in a way that doesn't feel like you're want uping them if they don't share anything you

can maybe share something and see if they then also equally exchange and then they share something as well if they

don't you take their not sharing as a signal to not share anything again in that conversation because they're

clearly not open you don't want to just give your entire life story to them without them feeling like they feel safe

enough to do the same with you so you just leave it at that adding all of these different elements together like

the eye contact the mirroring will Foster a very safe environment for that person so if you're doing all these

other pieces right there will be an exchange of vulnerability I have so many other videos on this about seduction but

this is a very big piece of the seduction pie you want to make sure that you're not just bulldozing them with

everything so let's say they're equally exchanging right so they share something you share something they share something

again you don't now go give the entire life history family history family tree entire life story we don't need that

because you want to make it so that they're sharing increments of themselves and you're sharing increments and little

sprinkles of yourself as well it creates this dance it creates more opportunity for further conversations down the line

more interactions if you give everything about yourself in this one interaction next time what's what are we going to be

talking about right so the way you build attraction and make yourself come off as irresistible and create that Lasting

Impression comes from wanting people to talk to you again you talk a little bit about something this time you leave it

the next time you see them pick up right where you left off and maybe you further the conversation you want to keep that

mystery about you you never want to just give everything because then it's just boring and it's just dead vulnerability

is key mystery is also key learning how to balance both and keep the mystery going for further conversations is

always a necessity it makes that person feel like they want to talk to you more oh my God I really like this person

because you've done the mirroring and you've done the eye contact and now they feel very drawn to you and so now they

want to know more about you because you gave them a little sprinkle here but you didn't reveal all of the pie and now

they still want to know this and that's when you become an onion and when you are an onion when someone can look at

you and think one thing and then talk to you and think another and then be like oh my God I didn't think you would be

that type of person it mind EPS people and that is an attraction can seriously be built very fast because you are just

coming off as an enigma and enigmas are usually the best kind of women because you're hard to crack and people just

need to figure you out and they creates all these different psychological subconscious things within a person so

remain vulnerable but also remain a little mysterious secret number five is going to tie everything together and

that is the law of scarcity one of the most interesting parts of Attraction and being irresistible is utilizing the law

of scarcity which is just understanding that people are naturally drawn towards what they can't have so now we're not

talking about games we're not talking about manipulation we are talking about just not always being readily available

being very particular and conservative about your resources like your time your energy you have to remain exclusive and

rare because that is always perceived as the best shiniest Jewel scarcity increases your value it's not not a

gameplay it's just a fact scarcity increases your value don't be the person that says yes to every single thing that

comes about don't be the person that undervalues their own time and just gives it to everybody whenever they're

being asked of it people will 100% take your presence for granted will take your kindness for granted whenever you are

just ready to drop everything in your life to be there for them and that is when attraction instantly diminishes

this is in marriages long-term relationships even just in the dating scene okay friendships even familial

relationships whatever relationship you are in and you're applying this all to your value will decrease if you are

always giving your attention time and focus to people so how do we use the law of scarcity this secret this principle

to increase our attractiveness create a sense of exclusivity around your time and your energy this doesn't mean

putting on an act or playing hard to get it means just being intentional with how you invest in yourself when you give

your time and energy always to that one person is that a proper return on your investment are you investing your

resources your time your energy your focus properly is it going to give you a return really take inventory of where

you are investing in yourself and investing in your relationships a huge part of utilizing the law of scarcity is

having and maintaining boundaries okay you have to have boundaries it's a non-negotiable if you want to truly

level up your life because boundaries really help create this container of your your own needs and making sure you

are prioritizing your own needs and valuing yourself and when people see you prioritizing and valuing yourself they

will naturally follow suit because they are again going to mirror what you do and how you show up for yourself

creating this mystery and this Edge helps people fill in the gaps in their own mind which people love to do

especially men if they can't figure everything out about you in that one interaction their mind is going to start

going crazy it's going to go into Fantasy Land they're going to try to figure out who you are all of these

different things and these elements about you and their mind is going to start working over time to make this

happen which helps you stay in their mind right it becomes a game when you're giving off an energy that is not

cohesive and harmonious with what you're feeling inside let me explain if you are genuinely interested in someone but then

you're trying to be mysterious and play hard to get and like you're not into them that's a game but when you're

reciprocating the energy of that person you like them they like you and you're not afraid to open up and be vulnerable

with that but you're not allowing them to access every part of you in one instant there's limits to your time your

energy your attention and your focus there's limits to how much they can learn about you in one interaction this

is the love of scarcity this is all the psychological Secrets we've talked about that is not an act that is just being

smart and investing properly in yourself and where you need to invest your time boundaries help us maintain control of

our own space when we Have No Boundaries everyone's just walking in everyone's walking out you're left in a worldwind

people are treating you certain types of way you're confused as to why it's happening people are controlling your

space your time your energy you are not in control of that and that doesn't make any sense because those are your

resources why is somebody else in control of them boundaries are essential and I want to just wrap this one up with

selectivity and confident you have to be one selective with who you are focusing on and who you're giving your attention

to you're not saying yes to every single person you're not going to every single plan and you're not being vulnerable and

open with just everybody but then there's confidence with that selectivity you have to have enough confidence to

say no to things if you have zero confidence you're going to feel like you can't say no you have to be okay with

somebody not taking that no very kindly somebody being like Oh my God why aren't you coming you have to be okay with that

so confidence plays a huge part in mastering all of these different Secrets because truly you have to be okay with

people just not taking it very well if you want to learn the three laws of Seduction to take your learning even

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